Ever since I was young, I dreamed of a big life.
As a kid, I was a performer, a voracious reader, and a budding adventurer. I couldn’t wait to grow up and conquer the world.
Even before I left home for university, I began plotting my first overseas trip. No one in my family had ever left the US, and I really didn’t know how I was going to manage it, but I knew I could make it happen. After a lot of planning and a lot of work, off I went, with a round trip airline ticket and an Eurail pass. This was before cell phones, the internet, or even cheap long distance rates. I backpacked around Europe until the money ran out and I had to go back to school.
I started out on plan – traveled, met great friends, got married, and volunteered as an activist for women’s rights (in no particular order). And then I decided to focus on my career. By all measures, I have enjoyed a successful career, with a six figure income and some really amazing opportunities. It’s really been multiple careers, as I have changed my career several times over the years, from Finance to IT Management to Project Management. I enjoy regular speaking opportunities, and serve as a mentor to other project managers.
But as I worked harder and harder, I felt my life getting smaller and smaller. From all outside appearances I was a success, but inside I was struggling. I didn’t feel like a success – I felt like a failure. I was depressed and struggling with who I was and what I was doing. I wasn’t enjoying my work, and I felt trapped in a world of my own making. I had to find a reason to love my life and my work again.
So I began to examine what I enjoyed, what I was good at, what I wanted, and how I wanted to live the rest of my life. In examining my career path and looking at my options, I discovered two key issues.
First – I had to remember who I am, and be thankful for the amazing things I’ve done in my life. I went back and said hello to the rock star second grader, the girl who loved the stage, the college student who took her small life savings and went backpacking around Europe, and the woman who organized 3,000+ activists. It reminded me how much I had already accomplished, and what I was capable of.
Second, I realized that I did my best work when serving others. When I let go of my childhood ideas of success and fame, I found that helping others achieve their goals is what truly gave me energy and made me feel successful. As I began to focus on helping others, I became a kinder and more compassion leader. I discovered not only a new way to practice my current profession, but a new profession that I love. This is how I became a performance coach.
I have taken everything that I have learned about management, leadership, career challenges, building teams and organizations, and getting things done, and apply this knowledge and experience to helping individuals and businesses to find their path to success.